Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

MUMS keeping it REAL - Special guest blog with The Yogic Housewife!


MUMS keeping it REAL
Special Guest Blog with Nicola Garcia 
5 Steps to Happiness
I am so very excited to share a very real and inspiring guest post today with The Yogic HousewifeNicola Garcia. I just LOVE it when mums, especially really inspiring ones like Nicola share their wisdom and experiences in a very real life way.
It is like a breath of fresh air on motherhood.
It makes for advice you not only can actually follow as a busy mum, but want to follow too.
Below is such an honest and moving post, one that will help you feel better and feel somuch  happier especially on those days when you really need it the most!
Be sure to follow Nicola's BLOG and Facebook page for more of her inspiring wisdom, and stay tuned for her new book!

Five Steps To Happiness
A short introduction to me (before you get the wrong idea), I am a happiness guru, a positivity pusher, a believer in the Universe and everything coming at the right time. I love to do things that make me happy, spend time with my kids, go on dates with my husband and love my life. But….there are some days when it is just so good to get your grumpiness on….and know that this is not the end of your happiness, but a blip on one day.

Below I share my story of such a day and give you some inspiration for making those days better….

Yesterday, for me, was a long tedious blur. Mantras were not working. 
“I am happy and fulfilled” was not cutting the mustard. I did not feel happy, nor fulfilled.
I woke up in a mood and the rest of the day stretched out in front of me, bleak and full on with two little people to look after.
Let’s just say their behaviour was tipping the wrong side of abysmal.
When my husband, who’s been over-committed to social occasions lately, rolled out of bed, I listed my gripes and that helped release some tension.
I then decided to put my black energy into something constructive.
I tackled the mess that some would call a playroom. I couldn't see the floor. There were toys littered, puzzle pieces in random boxes and cars under my feet.
This gave me the right to provide the evil eye at any person (small or large) that came within my vicinity.
Nobody helped me.

In fact a couple of times I was hindered, but I kept on.
Satisfied when the room was ordered and gleaming, I moved on to the bathroom cupboards and started de-cluttering. As I got to get rid of some of my husband’s things, this provided me with a glimpse of happiness and my mood improved.
I decided to give everything I was putting out to a Women’s refuge: cue feel good moment and a new intensive purpose. My wardrobe was attacked and it now looks stream-lined and healthy. I parted with things I didn’t think I could.
A good cause will make the decision easy.
By midday I was done. I made a vegetable-heavy mince for Bolognese and got mean satisfaction from watching my family chow it down.
Ditto with the risotto I made for dinner.
By 5pm I looked back over my day and was so pleased that my mood turned around.
Fun Mum and Happy Wife came back.

So, my tried and tested steps to happiness are:
Yell At Husband
Tidy and Throw Out Things
Give To Good Cause
Hide Vegetables in Children’s Food
Re-live steps 1 – 4

I would love to know if any of this works for you. Don’t tell your husband or kids that it was me who gave you the ideas!
Xx

Nicola Garcia has two children under four and blogs about health and motherhood over at theyogichousewife.wordpress.com  She has an e-book coming out in June, How To Become One Healthy Mama. You can catch her on facebook (she practically lives there) www.facebook.com/theyogichousewife or tweet her @yogichousewife. 

The Simple Things - Guest Post by Best Selling Author Sally Collings



Sally Collings – guest post on The Simple Things


Most weeks, I have a conversation with one of my daughters that goes something like this:
‘Mum, I want an iPad [substitute consumer item of choice here], can I have one?’
‘What do you want one of those for?’
‘Everyone else in my class has one.’
‘Are you sure … ? And in any case, that doesn’t mean that you need one.’
‘That’s so unfair!’
‘Life is unfair, sweetie. But do you know the best way to be happy?’
[Roll of eyes.] ‘No, what is it?’

‘Want less.’

 I don’t know if it’s working, but it’s a message I try to slip in whenever I can. I really believe that much of the stress and strain we experience is to do with striving, competition, and the sheer drive to consume. It’s everywhere, and it is hugely difficult to resist.

That’s why I’ve co-written a book called The Simple Things with Antonia Kidman. The sub-title is ‘Creating an organised home, a happy family and a life worth living’, because we both feel that those three things are intertwined. Organisation is about being conscious of what you buy, keep, and own, and stripping back where needed. Families thrive when their days are focused on experiences rather than stuff. Life has more value when relationships rather than ownership are at the core.

I’m no domestic goddess, so some of the things Antonia and I write about in our book are not second nature to me. Batch cooking, for example: I know it’s a great way to save time and cooking, but I often forget to buy big enough quantities of the ingredients I need. Some weeks it all comes together, though, and those weeks feel better, less flustered, more in the flow.

One of the tips in The Simple Things that I really love is ‘the minimalist home’: paring everything down so that your home is streamlined and clutter-free. My family is just about to move house, so I’ve just done a major minimalisation in our house, and I love it. I get a kick out of seeing benches without bits and pieces all over them, beds freshly made – I’ve even developed a taste for rolling towels, though I think I’ll get over that pretty soon! It’s been a major effort to get the house that way, but two things that helped were tackling one room at a time and getting the kids involved. We turned it into a competition to see who could fill a garbage bag first, which is a great motivator!

Strangely enough, simplicity isn’t always the easy option. It can take courage to say no, to fly in the face of what everyone around us seems to be doing.

The results are worth it, though. A happier, healthier, more peaceful life for you and your family is really worth the effort.
 
Sally Collings is the author of bestselling Sophie’s Journey as well as Positive, The World According to Kids and Parenting with Soul. A writer, editor and publisher, her special areas of interest are life stories, parenting and everyday spirituality. She lives in the subtropical paradise of Brisbane with her husband, two daughters and one goldfish

Want to lose baby weight? Guest Blog at The Mama Club!

Read my piece on Pram Walking, getting started, making it effective, keeping the little ones happy and losing that baby weight over at the

The Mama Club they are even giving away a copy of The Pram Diet book with my guest blog post!

Rebecca xx

Motherhood Pressure Turned Into BLISS

Becoming a mother is many amazing things. It is the purest and deepest love you never imagined was possible. It is breathtaking joy. It is moments of treasured complete bliss marveling at this new, perfect person that loves you unconditionally and you them.

For some mum's In amongst the bubble of loving haze can creep in unwanted emotions. Anxiety, worry, fear, frustration even depression.
Sometimes when you become a mother too something almost competitive happens to you, an invisible pressure, an instinct to want to be a super mum, or to feel like you have to be a super mum, to always put on a pretence that everything is always perfect and ok because it can seem from the outside that all the others mothers you know are doing it all so perfectly, so effortlessly.

Sometimes a feeling of being inadequate can creep in, you compare yourself and your baby and children unfairly , maybe even against celebrities and often it all comes from us and our own unreasonable preconceptions anyway.
You can feel that no matter how much effort you seem to be putting in it’s just so hard to keep up with the other mothers! What am I doing wrong?
There can be this silent feeling that you have to do it all and do it all super well at all times. That you can’t have a bad day. Your child can’t be covered in mud when you arrive at the catch up, you can’t be at school drop off looking like a right mess, your children can't all catch head lice or a cold. You can't just relax even when your in the supermarket with a poo filled nappy baby or a power play creaming toddler. You should take to breastfeeding effortlessly of course. Your baby should sleep through...it can go and on.

You can create a world of pressure around yourself that saps all the joy out of the experience.

You can even feel too guilty and pressured to even just have a relaxing bliss day every so often, basking in the glow of motherhood and just being with your baby.

You can start to feel really pressured, that you should always be doing something and that your house should be spotless at all times, your baby growing at the top of the charts, hitting all the milestones early and of course sleeping all night. You should have all the latest baby must haves and you should even be juggling it all with a high flying career or making lots of money from home, while also making elaborate meals and of course looking fantastic and being back into pre-baby jeans in around 3 weeks and never skipping a beat with an ever chirpy greeting to everyone you meet.


Is it any wonder we as mothers can burn out? Get post natal depression? Get stressed? Become ill? Forget sometimes to just take a moment to just be? Forget what makes us, as an individual shine?

If you find yourself ever feeling like this, step back. Breathe. Centre yourself.


Just be the you as you are as a mother. An honest version of you. DO spend whole days just enjoying your baby, your kids, your husband, your own company. The time really does go so quickly and each moment is a precious bubble of time. Go with the flow more. Get over the things that happen beyond your control, let your children play in the dirt and climb a tree.
Have a career or be a stay at home mum-whichever YOU truly want, both are perfect choices when made from the heart.
Do things each day that make you happy, you deserve to feel happy. Cherish yourself. Have hobbies that thrill you and make you smile, ask for help when you need it-whenever you need it, follow your natural instincts with your baby, have friends over even when the house is a mess, follow a dream, enjoy stillness as well as delightful chaos, be honest with everyone who cares about you, be passionately happy, be exactly what YOU want to be.

Most of all as a mum be honest and supportive of other mums, respect each other’s choices and journeys.

Never be afraid to admit openly if you have had a horrible sleepless night, when you really need a break to your partner (before reaching a breaking point), say when you want a hand or even just a non judgemental ear to listen over a cup of coffee.
Do ask for advice when YOU want it or to talk about how you are feeling with those who support you.

Create, find or join a supportive group of mums and do swap ideas and tips with each other, laugh together, cry together, eat meals together it is amazing what we can learn from each other and the benefits this interaction really does have.

We all have our strengths and skills and sharing them with each other helps us all to grow.
Open up to the mothers around you and lest all support each other in this journey that is motherhood and above all else be the beautiful, talented, unique person that is you!
The ONLY you!
And after all a true SUPER MUM is every mum who parents with her heart!

Rebecca xxx

A Positive Birth Revolution in the Making-with Katrina Zaslavsky

A Positive Birth Revolution in the Making
A Modern Woman’s Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth: An Inside Interview with Author Katrina Zaslavsky

  1. Tell us, what is your new book A Modern Woman's Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth all about?
My new inspirational book, A Modern Woman's Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth (AUD $34.95 via http://shop.inspiringbirthstories.com.au/) is a collection of inspiring birth stories, expert tips and practical insights to overcome our fears and reclaim our birth power in a modern world, with Afterword by Dr Sarah Buckley MD, internationally renowned author of “Gentle Birth Gentle Mothering.”

  1. What inspired you to write this book?
When I was pregnant for the first time, I remember being insatiably hungry for knowledge. I wanted to know everything there was to know on pregnancy and birth and was ready to devour every book on the subject I could get my hands on. This was an important step on the road to self empowerment, yet I found most books were either too clinical, boring or uninspiring and was left rather dissatisfied.
Like many first time mothers, I was also very fearful of the birth process even though I believed (and still do) that natural is best. That was my approach to life in general so it just made sense. That meant a big bridge to cross from intense fear and anxiety at even the mere thought of labour to feeling completely at peace. Having faced and worked through this fear, resulting in two natural drug free births with my beautiful girls and then coaching others in bloom, I felt compelled to help empower other women to walk the same path.  Read my story “Mum on A Mission” here: http://shop.inspiringbirthstories.com.au/meet-the-author/

  1. How is your book different from the others on pregnancy and birth?
I wanted to bring back the magic, the miracle and beauty of birth – this is what I felt was missing from many books I had read and what is was really about. I also felt there was a strong need to un-medicalise or normalise birth in our society. So in essence, my book is the opposite of the ones I had read as a first time mother. Many women have shared how easy it is to read, how they “couldn’t put it down,” that it was “refreshingly real,” “a must read” and one reader even called it “the most inspiring book” she had ever read on the subject!” WOW! To me that is the best compliment and the most heart warming “thank you” an author could ever receive! More rave reviews here: http://inspiringbirthstories.com.au/blog/category/rave-reviews/

  1. Why are modern women so fearful of giving birth?
In the book, A Modern Woman’s Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth, I discuss the lack of sisterhood when it comes to birth. Women tend to share horror stories when they spot the bump, instead of anything remotely helpful or inspiring for a new impressionable expectant mother. How often do you hear, “Oh I had the most AMAZING BLISSFUL birth experience, let me tell you all about it...” Didn’t think so! Lol J
Those that have a negative or traumatic experience tend to spread it far and wide and unload on poor unsuspecting pregnant ladies. (a form of therapy at others’ expense) Those that have a positive experience tend to keep it to themselves since they feel content and complete in themselves or don’t want to appear as if they are bragging. If all we ever hear is the negatives, then we may get the impression that birth is something to fear, endure and that it must involve drugs or medical procedures. As you will discover in the book, A Modern Woman’s Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth, this does not need to be the case!! In fact, birth can even be a joyous experience.
f you follow the media as your only frame of reference, then you have every reason to be afraid! Birth is currently a hot topic in the media, yet again all we ever hear are the horror stories or what goes 'wrong.' (it seems negative stories are the only ones that make newsworthy headlines so that’s all we hear about) This only feeds the fear and keeps us trapped in the birth fear epidemic that is so prevalent in our modern society.
Meanwhile, Hollywood movies paint the picture of birth as a frantic emergency rather than something that can happen calmly. Such movies only depict birth as a routinely medical event instead of the greatest natural miracle we can participate in and something we are perfectly designed to do as women without outside ‘help’ or minimal if any interference.
 I really feel that women now, more than ever, need to hear positive stories to remedy this, to normalise and un-medicalise birth in their own minds (our thoughts create our reality!) and bring back the beauty, magic and miracle of this natural process that it truly is at it's essence.... and restore our faith in mother nature and our own bodies to do what we are designed to do!
Remember this is nothing new, this is what women have been doing since the beginning of time. The truth is, women are gloriously capable of giving birth and just need to take good care of their wellbeing, to stay in their power, trust themselves and own their magnificence!

  1. You refer to yourself as a “mum on a mission.” What drives you to share the message of empowering birth so actively?


I was the same as many other women, I have been there myself so I can relate. The birth process has always been mysterious and one of my greatest fears, yet I could never have imagined that one day it would become my greatest achievement and source of new courage and confidence not only as a mother but as a woman. Now that I have walked the path from being absolutely terrified to feeling completely at peace and on the other side, been positively transformed through birth, I would love every woman to experience the same thing. So now it’s become my new purpose in life to empower women around the globe to reclaim their birth power and discover their inner birth goddess. To remember what we are made for. Underneath all the fear, negativity and misconceptions there is a beautiful birth goddess just waiting to emerge!

  1. How would you describe the process of writing this book?
An amazing adventure! I became so obsessed and immersed in the process of writing that it was all I could think about day and night for many months. Now I understand why writers remove themselves from their daily lives and go off into a forest somewhere! I didn’t have that luxury with two young kids at home. However, I did become more intuitive and spiritually aware throughout this process and really stepped into the role to get back in touch with my own experiences and how I was feeling at the time. I even remember having a vivid dream that I was pregnant myself!
Also I have always been a very private person and I surprised myself that I was able to abandon myself to the project and bared my soul to my readers. Not only did empowered mothers and birth professionals share their stories, insights and tips throughout but there is a personally commentary from my own experiences and the birth lessons I gained along the way.
It is an intimate topic that we don’t normally speak about so openly and in such detail (a bit like sharing your love life!), yet I felt that this topic was so much bigger than me and if it would change lives of women around the world then it would be worth it. One reader confirmed this when she described the book as “raw and real.” That is exactly what I had envisaged.

  1. What kind of benefits can a new mother to be, expect from reading the book?
It is designed to be a complete mind body preparation guide for every woman in bloom - for some this will be everything they need to know in the one book. And will save their precious time looking around for helpful, positive books on the subject or researching like mad, like I had to do the first time to find answers! For others it may send them off on a whole new journey of discovery. For instance, they may like to explore water births or finding a doula which is something perhaps they didn’t know about or hadn’t considered before. It has been so exciting to read all the amazingly positive reviews that have been coming in steadily. You can read what others say about the book here: http://inspiringbirthstories.com.au/blog/category/rave-reviews/
And meet one of our empowered Mums here in this live video interview: http://inspiringbirthstories.com.au/blog/2012/resources/interview-with-rebecca-dettman-on-empowered-birth/

  1. Why do we need to read inspiring birth stories?
In many cultures we have traditionally learnt important life lessons through sharing stories eg fables. So I thought it would be a great way to not only inspire women but also share valuable birth lessons. The things that we wish someone had told us before we had given birth!
Dr Sarah Buckley (meet her here: http://shop.inspiringbirthstories.com.au/meet-the-contributors/) says “one of the best ways to prepare for birth is to saturate ourselves in positive birth stories” and that is exactly what we have here. A great antidote to the negativity that we are surrounded by in the ‘real world.
Hopefully this will help many women to overcome their fears and reclaim their birth power. To choose what’s right for them and to become an active and conscious participant in the process rather than having things done to them or without their knowledge or consent. There is no right and wrong when it comes to birth, only choices. Informed choices are the only real choices and this will give mothers what they need to know to make informed choices for themselves and their babies. This is why the book is both inspiring and empowering.

  1. I understand you a currently on a national launch tour. Will you be visiting the Sunshine Coast?
Yes! I am excited to come to your beautiful city, Sunshine Coast in March 2012 as our next stop on our Australian launch tour. See event details here: http://inspiringbirthstories.com.au/events/
Looks like I am coming for good reason too- I was just reading that Queensland has the highest rate of caesarians in Australia (currently 34 per cent of all births and even higher in Queensland's private hospitals, at 48 per cent! Too many women are uninformed in this area...so we need to make major changes in this department!
  1. How do you believe this book will help create a positive birth revolution?In life there are some things we plan and others life plans for us! This book was a result of the latter, a labour of love, very inspired and something I felt needed to be done, even with two beautiful kids at my feet. Writing this book was not something that I had planned in my head as a ‘good idea’. It is something that simply struck me one day and felt right. The project has completely taken over from that day onward and has grown a life all of its own. My new “baby” so to speak!
This is so much more than a book to me, it is my calling in life right now to bring more awareness, empowerment and consciousness to women and I am very inspired to share this message of empowering birth with the world.
I really feel that if we can put this book into the hands of first time mothers to be, then we could prevent many cases of unnecessary birth trauma and the resulting postnatal depression that follows from such an experience. This is why I am so possessed to spread the word and be part of the change in creating a positive birth revolution across Australia and beyond!

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Mother Guilt

Are we our own worst critics?

Mother Guilt

Does 'mother guilt' stop you from leading a healthy, active lifestyle?

There can be a real resistance to doing things for yourself once you becme a mother. The days of spoiling yourself with an indulgent massage, shopping spree, movie with girlfriends, long hair salon appointment, day at home cuddled up with some tear jerking dvd's or evening out can seem like distant memories.

Let alone, spending money on special items or specific foods for yourself or allocating a time each day for exercise, relaxation or a taking a class.

As mothers we tend to put our families needs and wants first every time as we forever strive to be the very best mums we can be and ensure that our families are happy and all taken care of in every possible conceivable way..

We become so busy looking after everybody else that we forget to take care of ourselves too. Whether we are a stay at home or working mum are lives seem so exhausting at times we might even look back and wonder how we did it all.

We can all too easily forget that as the loving warmth of our family we are so important and by not taking care of ourselves we can overdo it, we can run dry of energy, we can burn out.

The guilt you can sometimes feel as a mother, especially when your children are very young for even considering taking an hour to yourself to do something that is solely for your own benefit or pleasure can be intense. You could even just be to exhausted at the mere thought of trying to find an hour in a day, let alone be able to relax in it.

We can sometimes find it hard to ‘justify’ to ourselves that it’s really OK even if our families are supportive of the idea.

Are we our own worst critic's? Do we as mothers push ourselves too hard and expect too much from ourselves? Do we often see as ourselves as the last priority of the day?

We need to remind ourselves that we are so important to our families, our babies our children so we should be important to ourselves too and this includes looking after health. Our mind, body and soul.

We are worth the effort and we do deserve to feel vibrant and full of energy each day.



For lots of great ways to relax, exercise with your baby and children, eat better as family, boost confidence and even unleash your creative side check out my book, The Pram Diet.
Buy it here

Mothers Day & Fabulous Female Authors


This coming Mothers Day, so many of us will be looking for gifts for our mothers, step mothers, mothers in law, grandmothers and so on-so why not buy a gift that also supports the great female Authors out there and also therefore women in the publishing industry, many of whom are mothers!

Head over to the Facebook event HERE
Mothers Day gift ideas-books by female authors and join in the fun!
Be sure to share some great ideas/reviews for others and add your own books if your a female author!
And wishing all a wonderful upcoming Mothers Day! x

Author interview with Literary Life

Read my author interview with Literary life, a site I enjoy very much!

In the interview-
Opening up about post natal depression
Why I wrote the pram diet book

Plus win a copy of the pram diet book!

http://bookworm-megs.blogspot.com/2011/04/author-interview-rebecca-mugridge-plus.html

Pram Walking Tips-Babies

Tips and Tricks for a happy pram walk with babies

To make walking with your baby in the pram a pleasant and beneficial experience for you both there are some handy tricks and tips I have discovered with my two girls and our pram walking and from the many other mums I have had the pleasure to pram walk with.

Remember ever child is so different because we are all unique so different things work for different babies. To make you walks successful try different things until you are both happy and enjoying the experience and then it can become a beautiful routine you'll both look forward too and a great way to lose weight, get fit and healthy and spend some time together.

You want baby to love their pram.
This is quite a crucial early part of getting into a pram walking routine. It does seem that it only takes one or two 'unpleasent' experiences to make a baby not like something and then react fearfully about it and you can't blame them.
IE: Baby-Last time I was in here was horrible, please don't leave me in here mummy! Cue crying.
So how to get baby to love their pram??

If baby doesn't love their pram they won't want to A go in it and B stay in it for a walk and this can effect you in more than just your pram walks, it can effect shopping and family outings in general. So it is in everybody's best interest to make the pram a fun, lovable place for baby.
  • Make the pram a pleasant safe feeling place to be.
  • Always try to pick a good time for your walks, i.e when baby is due for a nap and they can gently fall asleep to the soothing pram motion, just after a feed so they wont get hungry during the walk or a time of day when you know they are usually in a happy contented mood. TIP Avoid the hottest parts of the day.
  • Always make sure a young baby is well fed before you set out; being hungry especially for a demand fed breastfed baby is one of the quickest ways to upset the walk for you both!
  • Be prepared. baby's are growing little new people, sometimes they just don't fit into the normal routine on an odd day so even if your baby has 'never before' needed a feed at that time or a nappy change etc be prepared that it could happen, just in case, allow for it and attend to baby until they are happy again. It really just doesn't hurt to have extra items in the pram.
    I have always also carried things like a first aid kit, hat, insect bite cream, paw paw cream, blankets, extra dummies/soothers, extra bottle if they are bottle fed etc.
  • Stop and feed them. If baby is grizzling and they are hungry the best thing to do is stop your walk and feed your baby until they are happy again. Again this refers to baby 'loving' their pram. Neither of you will enjoy the rest of the walk if you try and 'just keep going' even if it is only just a little bit further. It is always going to be worth your while to stop and feed them. 
  • Adjust the position to baby's mood. Sometimes baby will want to look out and see whats going on, put a good comfortable hat on them to keep the sun out of their eyes, prop them securely with blankets so they don't slide about or feel insecure.
    Sometimes they will be just wanting to see a bit and be slightly reclined where they can still see you clearly but feel rested and safe.
    Sometimes they might want it to be lying flat so they can sleep, play with toys, look up at toy's and have a kick at them or doze on and off. I have personally found this can make a huge difference to baby's happiness during a walk and can be something so easily overlooked.
  • Always pick up baby if they cry. Again you do not want baby to hate their pram, at all. They need to know its a safe place, they need to know that when they are in their pram and if they get upset mum or dad will pick them up and see to them. If you do this right from the start they will feel more secure and content and they will trust and enjoy their pram-sometimes the pram can even become a most beloved place for them!
    The amazing BABY WHISPERER, Tracey Hogg has an awesome technique in her books loved by mums all over the world that she refers to as 'Pick Up Put Down', where you pick up baby from their cot every time they cry but as soon as they stop when you are holding them you put them back, if they cry you pick them up again and so on. You can find out the whole technique in her books. I too do not personally believe in letting a baby just cry, it only really makes things worse in the long run and causes a breach of trust between you.
    Remember to check all possible reasons baby might have started to cry like:
    Was the sun in their eyes? Were they bitten by something, a mozzie perhaps? Where they uncomfortable? Was a toy poking them? Did they get a fright and just need a little cuddle? Are they tired? Are they hungry? Do they want to see you? Is their nappy hurting them? Do they need a nappy change? Are their feet cold? Do they have wind? Need burping? Or are they hot/cold? Is wind annoying them? I don't know how many times I have picked up my crying baby and for them to give a huge burp and then happily settle again!I have personally found that by seeing to all these sorts of needs when they cry, giving them some comfort and 'time' they will go happily back into the pram and feel more secure the next time because they know it's safe.
  • Be sun savvy. Think hat for baby, sun shade, sun umbrella even muslin cloths. Some prams even have reversible handles so you can adjust to match the sun. Having the sun in your eyes is just awful-check this regularly as you walk.
  • Stimulation. As baby's grow we know they need different things to look at and play with, well the same applies to the pram. Keep a box of interesting toys aside that are just for the pram and no other time then rotate which ones you take on each walk so baby isn't always looking at and playing with the same things.
    Even stop sometimes to show baby a tree, colourful sign or something interesting.
  • Communicate. Try not to take your mp3 player, instead talk or sing to your baby as you walk. Even if they are really little you can still point out things and noises along the way, they do love to hear your voice.
  • Relax! Babies are so intuitive. They really pick up on your mood. If you are stressed, anxious, worrying, angry, frustrated they will not only feel this but will become unsettled even 'clingy' ( nI use this term loosely), irritable and anxious themselves making eveybody unhappy!
    Remind yourself, there is nothing that you have to think about on your walk other than your baby and the beautiful experience of the walk. Everything else can wait an hour! Put your mind and worries on pause. 
By putting in the effort in the first few main walks and making extra sure baby is happy during walks you really do find it sets you and baby up well for many great pleasant walks together, sometimes it just takes a little patience to get in the swing of it, sometimes it might mean being late, sometimes it might mean trying different scenarios, sometimes it might mean an unexpected pit stop or two and after 2 babies I can tell you personally it was different with them both, and so wonderfully worth it!!

(c)RebeccaMugridge2011

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Small Steps to Big Changes

When we want to make changes in our lives.

When we want to get healthy, lose weight or achieve goals it can all to often seem too big a task.
It can be daunting and overwhelming.

Just too hard to start...

BUT..If we approach with small positive steps, one little step at a time we CAN make changes, we can make difference, we can get closer and closer to our goal.

We really can.

With self belief, a positive attitude ( at least most of the time ) and some thinking outside of the square sometimes, we really can take small steps towards bigger changes.

How much of our modern busy lives are now spent inside? Inside buildings, inside houses, inside cars, bus's and shops?

Life just seems to be so fast these days, with always so much to do.
It seems that having some time to relax, take care of our health and active or creative time together as a family is so hard to find. Even finding time to 'just be' and have some personal time out can feel nearly impossible.

BUT...One of the best things we can all do ( and should do ) is make time.

Make it a high priority to find that time each day.
Time to get outside!
Peel our tired, worn out selves away from the TV, computer, sofa and car. Away from the never ending chores and things to be done for a little while and go out of doors..

We need to bring some freshness to our lives.

Get out in that rejuvenating fresh air, smell some garden flowers, walk through a beautiful park, watch a sunset, cook a meal with your children from fresh ingredients picked together from the garden or sourced at a farmers market, plant a garden as a family or through a group, school, church or other organisation and bring some fresh energy into our life.

Be fresh, live fresh, breathe fresh and eat fresh.

It can be so easy to think "I am so busy with everything already-how could I possibly find time to go for a walk? Or start growing some fruit and veggies at home? Or cook a healthy meal Or make that outdoor family time each day??"

But the benefits of bringing this freshness to your life are such an inspiring experience that you can and do find that time...sometimes it may mean saying no to some extra workload, favours or other things you find it hard to say no to, sometimes it might mean creating an organised daily plan or cutting back on things that take up too much of your time or even are just time wasting, sometimes it might mean making a daily 'appointment' with yourself or as a family and making sure its kept!, sometimes it might be structuring family chores so everyone helps more or de cluttering some things in your life like your home to make tasks easier. It could be assessing your priorities and working out what is most important and what really makes you and your family happy. After all being healthy and less stressed brings such a vibrant energy to your life that everyone benefits..

Even a small change makes a huge difference-THINK
Try one new healthy recipe to start with...
Plant and grow one pot plant of something edible to get started...
Go for a short walk on your own as your refreshing 'time out' or as a family as a great healthy way of bonding every other day to get started..
Take up a small creative hobby that really helps you unwind and express your artistic side..

I have learnt myself that once you start bringing some freshness into your life it is just so wonderful and is so inspiring that you never look back.

For me starting a daily walk changed the way I saw exercise and how much moving more made me feel so much more alive and full of energy..
For me starting an edible garden and sourcing and using fresh herbs and ingredients changed the way I ate and saw the food I was putting in to my body and on my families dinner plates..

For me bringing some freshness to my life changed my life and opened my eyes to a whole new and exciting way of living..

Small steps lead to other small steps which all lead to new 'good' habits.

Always look for your self belief and for inspiration....and remind yourself that every step towards a healthier lifetsyle is a step well worth taking.

Rebecca xx

Baby Violet is here


I am delighted to share that I am now the proud mother of two beautiful girls with my little Violet arriving on October 28th.
Now blessed with two little flowers I am more than ever inspired to fill my home and life with great healthy choices,fresh and fun food and the amazing difference an active and positive life can bring.
Seeing myself as the important role model a parent is to my young daughters is such great inspiration to look after myself, adopt a healthy attitude and enjoy each and every day.
Being a parent, I am also motivated to get back into shape after baby number 2 in a healthy and balanced way with respect and kindness towards myself along the way.

Having a baby is such a huge thing and mothers of new babies need to remember this and focus on postives and healthy choices not negative pressures or unrealistic expectations.

Becoming a mother truly is the most special, transforming and amazing experience of my life-It truly is a blessing indeed!

Rebecca xx

Eating healthy-pregnancy and beyond-FRUIT

Improving your diet to include plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables and whole grains has such enormous benefits to both mother and child.

The best part about improving your diet during pregnancy can be that fresh fruits and vegetables can take on an almost extra dimension in flavour and smell as your senses are so much more alive when you are pregnant.

Many a pregnant woman has been able to smell the best apples from afar and the ripest sweetest strawberries, it is almost like we gain an extra sense!
If you have ever had trouble getting yourself to eat and enjoy fruit and raw vegetables than pregnancy is an incredible time to get to know them all over again.

It is often the way that as mothers we will cut up fresh fruit for our children's healthy snacks and then just grab whatever for ourselves because we somehow don't see the value in ourselves and our health enough that we are worth the effort and time it takes to create healthy snacks for ourselves.
Have you ever cut up a juicy orange for your children, fresh crunchy stalks of celery and carrot or refreshing watermelon, eaten a piece and then marveled at how good it actually tasted and wondered why you don't do this for yourself? Instead of just quickly grabbing some biscuits, a coffee, sandwich or crisps?

When you have a sweet craving do you always address it with chocolate, lollies, cake or fizzy drink, have you ever tried some fresh fruit instead? It really might just pleasantly surprise you! Not just think of it and dismiss it as 'boring' but actually made a fresh fruit snack for yourself? While there is nothing wrong with having some chocolate or cake here and there, break it up with some fresh fruit and you'll really notice a difference in your health.

There can almost be a built up 'it's healthy so it wont be as exciting or appealing' resistance at the mere thought of tucking into a banana, some rock melon or an in season mandarin as adults.

We can also put such little value on fruit that we will not buy it at the supermarket because it is too expensive-instead falling in to the marketing trap of cheap junk foods, for example not buying a bag of oranges for $5.00 and instead spending that same $5.00 on an impulse buy of a special like 2 family blocks of chocolate for $5.00 or jam and cream buns on special buy for $5.00.
We might even be very happy that we got these as a 'bargain', where as see the oranges as rudely expensive.
Maybe even perhaps because they are grown on a tree?

Is it in fact possible that because we have such great access to fresh fruits and vegetables throughout most places in Australia and because they are something that is produced from a plant that we overlook just how much hard work and effort actually can go into bringing these fresh ingredients to our supermarket shelves?
Because they can be so readily available to overlook their actual significance and how fortunate we are to have such access to them all?

Or are we surrounded so much with fresh produce that it is no longer exciting?

Or does the fact that it is 'healthy' put us even subconsciously off?

Or have we learnt bad eating habits from our parents and just decide that we don't like fruit? Even if maybe there are many types we have actually never event tried?

When the craziest thing of it all is that if we did buy that in season quality fresh fruit instead of an unhealthy alternative not only would it taste delicious and be really satisfying but our bodies and health will respond positively too this great anti oxidant filled fuel.
The simple undeniable fact is you feel great when you eat great food. You feel flat and sluggish when you eat too much of these 'non' or 'sometimes' foods. The difference is huge.

Tips for turning yourself into a fruit lover

Go quality over quantity. While it can be tempting to always 'bargain buy' especially if your on a tight budget you can end up wasting your money in the long run if your left with uneaten fruit going off. If you can sometimes pick up some great cheap fruit that still tastes OK that by all means do so! But remember that no fruit is a 'bargain' if no-one eats it in the end.

Buy as fresh as you can afford. That cheap bag of apples that are a bit bruised and probably very old and even soft will not be full of fresh flavour that makes them a great delicious healthy snack-so unless you are planning on baking with old fruit go for fresh. 5 Gorgeous oranges that make 5 exciting and healthy morning teas is far better than a whole swag full at half the price that are left to go off in the fruit bowl because they tasted awful.

Shop for fruit you actually like. Ingrained habits can be hard to shake, sometimes we might buy the same fruit our parents did-whether we actually like it or not.Or what we have just always bought our family.
Do you always buy the same variety of apples? Have you ever tried other varieties? Do you skip a whole isle in the fruit section because everything there you are sure you don't like-or maybe you have never actually tasted? Is there some types of fruit that you actually love but you don't buy because they are generally more expensive so you can't justify it? When there are perfectly fine other fruit types you can buy and fill your fruit bowl with at a much smaller cost, never mind that you might not be actually very keen on them though and so therefore will be unlikely to end up eating any, leaving them instead for the rest of the family or even worse to just go off?
Do you find yourself buying some fruit each week just because you feel you should? Not because you actually really desire to eat it? This should tell you that you are not buying fruit you actually overly like.

Go for whats in season. Try and be more flexible with your shopping and eating habits, buying whats in season ensures you are getting your fresh produce at its peak and there is alot better chance of it being fresher and even having traveled less food miles to get to you. Some of the healthiest societies are those that's diet varies greatly depending on the season. For example the fruits, vegetables, seeds, nuts and sometimes even grains they eat in colder winter months being very different from what they eat in the more warmer summer ones.

Be creative. It can be all in the 'how'. Just plonking an apple in a lunchbox or grabbing an orange doesn't always make it a 'first pick' snack, sometimes just that little bit of preparation or presentation makes all the difference in the world.
Such as a juicy orange might sound great on a hot day but the thought of sticky fingers and the mess required to eat the said orange can be what causes it to be overlooked in favour of something much easier and less messy to eat.
That same orange peeled and cut into segments inside a container that has been chilled for easy access could be a most exciting and refreshing snack that you might even find yourself grabbing before an unhealthy option.
A chilled miniature fruit salad of chopped watermelon, blueberries and grapes can be just as appetising and fulfilling as some unhealthy biscuits-it just takes some effort to put together and the making of ourselves and what we eat a priority in our busy lives.
We can become 'experts' and creative inventors when it comes to great tasty and fun ways to get children to eat their fresh fruit and vegetables but not put even a little of this effort into ourselves.

Buy fruit as a snack; find yourself near a supermarket at around lunch time or when you are feeling peckish? Before heading to a takeaway stand, grabbing a choccy bar or pie have a stroll through the fresh fruit section, do the blueberries look especially tasty? Is their some really lovely looking bananas or apples? Give it a go, you'll probably be very pleasantly surprised and feel so good afterwards.

Take fruit to events; going on a family outing to the beach, park, a football game? Take a watermelon or bag of juicy oranges along, such a great way for everyone to enjoy some refreshing and energizing fruit together-also a great way to cost costs of buying expensive nibbles while out.

Great fruit tempting ideas:

Freezing fruit; it really adds a whole new dimension and is just beautiful on hot days. Frozen grapes, strawberries, blueberries and banana's all become like beautiful cool summer treats. You can eat them as is for a refreshing snack or blend them with some yogurt for a chilled delicious smoothie-also a great way of storing excess fruit when you can bulk buy cheap in season.
Add a little flair; dress up some chopped fruit with some low fat custard, yogurt or even ice cream for a delicious fruit salad you will excitedly devour.
Try serving it different ways; think grated apple, thinly sliced pear and cubes of mango.
Blend it; you can't beat a fresh delicious fruit smoothie for a power boost of great nutrients and a great healthy snack or breakfast.
Serve fruit nibbles when entertaining; platters of chopped fruit, fruit 'kebabs', fruit and low fat cheese combinations-get creative.
Be prepared. When you come home from shopping spend a few minutes and cut up some fruit for easy to grab snacks in the fridge-yes chop up some watermelon and rock melon, put it in an airtight container in the fridge, you will be so surprised at just how much more you will find yourself grabbing this for a snack when its easy and convenient.


So what are you waiting for? Go get a great refreshing fruit snack!

(c)RebeccaMugridge2010

For more great ideas on eating healthier including supermarket shopping tips and advice and also great easy recipes check out The Pram Diet Book.
Available through Amazon, Angus & Robertson and even most Australian libraries.
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